You've probably heard that Pastor Cedric A. Miller is requiring anyone who is married, in a leadership position at his church, and who is on Facebook, to either get off Facebook or resign their church position. The reason? Because of all the marital counseling triggered by Facebook. Sound far-fetched? Actually no. I discovered that Nancy Kalish, Ph.D. published an article two months ago that detailed the problems Facebook was creating: "Extra-marital affairs in the New Millennium." She wrote:
I have been working with reunited couples for 16 years. . . According to my research participants in several phases of my study, there are more extramarital affairs in this population now than in the 1990's, before the Web, search engines, classmates sites, and now social networking were invented. . .
So what has changed with the Internet is how casual, even accidental, it can be nowadays to see a photo of lost love, or even a name, and have all the memories come flooding back. The old flame is right there, ready for contact, and what could be the harm? People who are happily married, especially, do not realize the risk they are taking, the Pandora's box they are opening, just to say hello. . . . [more]
Moral: If you are married, the past is best left in the past.