They hate it when she downplays the importance of feelings and places moral obligation on a higher plain than emotion.
They
hate how Dr. Laura badmouths "psychobabble" and demands that callers
say what they really mean when they talk about "dealing with" their
"issues."
They hate it when Dr. Laura makes people feel bad about doing bad things.
They
hate it when she turns the expectations table and asks dissatisfied
female callers, "How would you like to come home to you every day?" – a
query inevitably followed by an extended period of silence.
They
hate it when the daily dispenser of hardcore compassion responds to
"It's so hard" whiners with the callous retort, "So what?"
They
hate it when Dr. Laura answers "How do I ..." questions with
straightforward replies: "How do I get over the pain?" "It takes time."
"How do I stop being a complainer?" "Stop complaining."
They
hate Dr. Laura for destroying the illusion that there's an easy way to
do difficult things – for not pretending that a pill or a slick
technique can undo messes and avoid hurt feelings.
They
hate it when the petulant moralist employs the term "slut" or labels
callers "selfish" and tells them to think about others – as if she were
qualified to judge someone's "personal value system."
They
hate the fact that Dr. Laura disparages popular ideas about "venting"
and "confrontation" – concepts endorsed on TV shows where problems are
resolved after shouting matches that last less than five minutes.
They
hate it when she uses the term "shack-up" for relationships where
couples don't pledge to stay together "in sickness and in health, as
long as we both shall live" – as if their unwillingness to publicly
express their commitment to each other implies a lack of commitment.
They hate it when the impertinent shrinklette exclaims, "At least a prostitute gets paid!"
They
hate the fact that Dr. Laura puts the lives of children above the sex
lives of adults – and that she has the audacity to suggest staying
together for the sake of the kids.
They
hate it when she looks at custody arrangements through the eyes of
children and asks parents to imagine how their offspring feel about
being shuffled back and forth and "crammed" – not "blended" – into his,
hers and ours families.
They
hate that Dr. Laura dismisses the adult-centered excuse, "Kids adapt,"
and has the gall to say that mothers who don't want to raise their
children shouldn't have them.
They
especially hate it when she condenses current legal reasoning on the
subject of abortion into a simple, morally indefensible proposition:
"If she wants it, it's a baby. If she doesn't, it's not."
They hate when she says "Hoooah" – as if soldiers make the world a better place.
And they hate it when she says, "Do the right thing" – as if most actions aren't gloriously gray.
Most
of all they hate it when, having turned off the radio in disgust, a
barely perceptible but persistent voice keeps whispering in their ears:
"You know, don't you, that what Dr. Laura just said, is right?"